Middle age woamn dating younger guys

Those were the ages of Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore when the couple tied the knot last year, making their highly publicized May-December romance official.

But even though their older woman-younger man relationship may be among the world's most visible, it's not that unusual anymore.

When I suggested just spending a night at home eating dinner, he'd beg to go out and try a new restaurant or get a table at a club.

Deep down I was more of a homebody, so it didn't work out." "Everyone assumes that when you date someone younger they're more wild and immature, but it was the opposite when I dated a guy who was nine years younger than me.

She works out a lot by her own admission (and judging by her track record in this department) and often meets partners at the gym, not the bars.

Winter tells Web MD that she and her co-author interviewed more than 200 couples for their book. Such men (at least the ones interested in older women) are stable and mature. They want a woman who knows who she is." Still, even Winter admits, this may not be for everyone.

"The women," he says, "were more interested in men their own age or older." As for the men, he says: "I guess it could be nice not to hang around a ditz with no knowledge of music or something like that." "We have strong 'shoulds' on ways of partnering up," Kathryn Elliott, Ph D, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, explains to Web MD. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds." The key to making older women/younger man relationships work, Elliott says, is to match what she calls voltages.

"Choose someone who is your voltage type -- has the same level of intensity about life.

But what about the notion that men are "hard-wired" to seek a smooth-faced, curvy receptacle for reproduction and thus are drawn to younger women?

It's not what you think -- the stamina or "re-boot" ability of the younger male.

The women like the flexibility and sense of adventure of their more spontaneous, younger companions, Tina B.

"What you don't want," she explains, "is one partner wanting to go out, the other stay in; one willing to talk, the other wanting space (and silence to enjoy it)." Susan Winter is co-author, with Felicia Brings, of Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance.

She has been in several relationships with men up to 20 years younger than herself.

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