Dating the enemy porn

Every time we push the boundaries with our fiancée or lead each other into sin we are communicating, even though we don’t mean to, “you can’t trust me because I’m willing to use you and disregard you to get what I want.” And even worse than that, we show that we care more about our desires than about what God wants from us. So much of their dating relationship was wrapped up in the cycle of sin, shame, start-over that they never developed a deep mature battle-tested trust for each other.1 Thessalonians 4:3 says “this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality” and that v8 “whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.” So when you sin sexually against each other before marriage you are saying, “You can’t trust me because I’m willing to sacrifice both of our relationships with God to do what I want.” This is certainly one of the most deadly of all his strategies and the one I suspect hurt Tim and Jess the most. It is important to point out however that when we resist sexual sin, God blesses a relationship with the exact opposite effect.Don’t allow your relationship to remain unexamined by other godly Christians.

If he sets the wrong pattern here, he’ll be digging out for years afterward—and may never regain the ground he loses apart from God’s grace..

Their laughter had dulled and their distance had grown. As we unpacked some of their history, I discovered that he hadn’t sabotaged them on their honeymoon or in the early months of figuring out married life.

Instead, he’d begun his work before they even made it to the altar.

We weren’t perfect in our courtship, but the Lord used that season to build trust in each other.

There is a world of difference between pre-marital sex and sex within marriage.

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