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To help you better understand this let’s learn a few key principles that apply to the realistic processes we use to date and mate select.
When we see people we filter them as either being in or out of our pool of eligibles. We might include some because of tattoos and piercing or exclude some for the exact same physical traits.
Now of those, how many would you be attracted to as a date and how many can you tell just by watching them that you’d probably never date?
Filtering is the process of identifying those we interact with as either being in or out of our pool of people we might consider to be a date or mate. We might include some because they know someone we know or exclude the same people because they are total strangers.
Figure 1 shows the basic date and mate selection principles that play into our filtering processes (This inverted pyramid metaphorically represents a filter that a liquid might be poured through to refine it; IE: coffee filter).
Homogamy is the tendency for dates, mates, and spouses to pair off with someone of similar attraction, background, interests, and needs. They find and pair off with persons of similarity more than difference. Heterogamy is the dating or pairing of individuals with differences in traits.
Have you ever heard the colloquial phrase, "opposites attract? He likes water skiing and I like camping and hiking…" I interrupted her and said, "So you both like ethnic food, music, and outdoors. All of us pair off with heterogamous and homogamous individuals with emphasis more on the latter than the former.