Dating a separated man in italy
Plus he has children and their feelings about the break up of their family to think about. I am trying hard to go slow, I guess I don't know how to do it. I just have this thought that he is doing all of this cuz he wants to go back to his ex, which I honestly don't think so, but my anxiety does! That will go to his children first, then his ex-wife.
I can tell you, four months out of a divorce, he's not looking for the next Mrs. I hang on so tight that they slip out of my hand, I get attached too easily, I am a very attractive young woman, I didn't have a dad growing up, no close relationship with my brother, I don't know... Im not looking for true love this very moment, I know if I rush into something It will all fail, thats what happened to my last two relationships, I don't want that. He said earlier that he wants to be friends "for now" He said he thought he was ready for a relationship but isnt "right now" I asked him if he was going back to his ex wife and he said "no, not at all", Im not trying to set myself up for failure", how could I be with someone else when I cant stand up on my own two feet alone? In all honesty this is kind of good, I need to find balance in my own life and I dont have that right now, I need to concentrate more on me and establish myself more. His children will always take away from time with your and your relationship with him.
i've never dated a man with children and I just want to do the right thing! In your original post you even said you moved too fast. Despite how long he and his wife were separated, despite how long it's been since the divorce was finalised(and in this case it really wasn't that long)he's dealing with the end of a marriage and that's a pretty serious big deal. You say you're going to back off to the point where you won't even be around anymore. Now, instead of giving in to your paranoia(and does this have some basis? Because we could be looking at the genesis of your problems.} you should calm down and see where this goes. If you are willing to give it another shot, and at this point it all hinges on you, remember to go as slow as you can go. He can never give you 100% of anything time, money.
He cant commit right now after being married for so long and i totally understand that.
She will not forgive you for the smallest of mistakes and enjoys watching you squirm in your chair, embarrassed.
Her precise duties can vary from lovingly criticising you in front of your husband, taunting you with scathing remarks while your husband is not around and haunting you in the middle of the night, even in the privacy of your own bedroom!
Please do not be under the false impression that you got married to become his wife, you are just his mother’s assistant. He will threaten you with divorce every time you dare to speak out.
You will have to wait until they expire; with your luck, they might just outlive you. You must do all the household chores yourself; do not expect any help from your husband. It is your absolute duty to make sure the house is well looked after and that his mother does not have to move an inch! Do not ever suspect him of extramarital affairs; do not let him know that he has bad breath and that he snores.Don’t expect him to wake up in the middle of the night and change diapers — that is a lowly job meant only for wives to do. You will be expected to act in a proper and dignified manner at all times.You must kill the child inside you and remember you cannot be seen roaming about the house in your pyjamas or just relaxing, even if the house is empty; it is disrespectful to the ghosts living in the house.Oh, you thought it was a collective effort and he would help you raise the child too?Please, he’s doing enough favours paying for the child’s education and well-being!