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I traveled to Guatemala, Cambodia, and Thailand, volunteered as a yoga and English teacher for children, and did a ton of soul-searching.
Almost a year after we'd broken up, when I was traveling in Thailand, he wrote me a letter that read, "I saw this quote: 'What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
The minute I started looking at Adi's addiction as my problem as much as it was his, that's when everything transformed. He couldn't be friends with girls, go out with his friends and drink, or basically meet up with anyone except me.
We did work in so many different ways, like yoga, mindfulness, couples therapy, and talk therapy.
" He swore he wasn’t actually meeting up with women for sex, but why would I believe him?
We were only four months into our marriage, and I took my ring off.
He was saying things like how he wanted to hook up with them and exactly what he wanted to do to them. He didn't want to lose me, and that was the first time he told me, "I think I'm a sex addict." Apparently, every time we'd gotten into an argument, while I was off crying or being upset, hewould go off and text other women to feel validated.
Adi started going to Sex Addicts Anonymous meetings five days a week, and we started seeing therapists on our own in addition to the one we'd been seeing together.
I was pregnant, we weren't having sex, and he was doing so much work on himself. When I first found out about all the sexting back when we were engaged, I looked at it as Adi having a problem he needed to fix on his own. Once you get married, you take on the other person's problems—all of them.
The New Year's Day after we got married, I found out I was pregnant with our first child.
Then, around Valentine's Day, I found Adi's whole secret world.
He did that outpatient program for multiple hours three to four days a week and was still seeing a private therapist.
Something about seeing him do so much to work on himself made feel like perhaps we still had a chance.